With every relationship comes two things, love and problems. The most successful relationships are among those people who manage to solve those problems in order to continue with the love. Solving problems might seem like something annoying and difficult but, in fact, it is what makes the relationship stronger. Couples who manage to solve their problems with ease are the ones who stay together until the very end.
As that popular study says, the first step toward the resolving of a problem is admitting that you have one in the first place. Any relationship has its problems and couples have their own ways how they handle and manage those issues. Sometimes, these problems are actually just a child’s play but when the children come, everything greatly changes.
First of all, the only ones who are going to suffer from your inability to handle your problems will be your children and that is absolutely unacceptable. Now, the key to resolving all problems always lays in the ability to make compromises. If you keep your problems under the carpet it will eventually lead to a divorce, a breakup or it will represent a constant source of stress. When you are constantly under stress and unsatisfied, you might easily lose the will to live.
So, the first step towards the resolution is to define the problem and immediately find the adequate solution. Finding a solution is not only about resolving the problem, it is about developing that sense of a teamwork which will eventually bring you closer to your loved one. If you want to define the problem in order to find the solution, the best way would be to come clean about the problem.
And always remember that complaining about something is not the same as defining the problem clearly. Everything begins here. If you are to go through this, plan it. Take your time and talk but most importantly, be prepared to listen. It will not be easy but it is for the greater good. Say what you like and what you think should change.